You might think that your brain is the most amazingly fascinating, mysterious and powerful bunch of cells ever constructed by the intricate forces of nature …
… but that’s just what it wants you to think.
Great Minds trick alike.
Raise your hand if you’ve never heard any of the following lines, in one form or another:
- Let’s be friends
- I think we should see other people.
- It’s not you. It’s me
- I just don’t love you anymore.
If you’ve finished reading this list and your hand is raised, please bring it down to face level. Cup your hand to your cheek. Pull it back three to five inches, and, traveling at an increased velocity, slap yourself firmly on the face. Why? If you haven’t experienced rejection from a breakup, this exercise serves as a simulation of what rejection feels like. Actually, a slap in the face is much more pleasant than rejection.
Chances are, though, you didn’t raise your hand. I’m willing to bet that if you are reading this article, you are, unfortunately, familiar with the pain of rejection from a breakup.
Rejection Is Physiologically Heart-Breaking
“Rejection” comes from Latin, meaning thrown back. When we are rejected, we feel not only halted, but pushed back in the opposite direction of which we were headed. Now consider this: When rejected, how do we describe the event? We tend to say, “I was rejected.” Notice what is going on here. We are using passive voice. This indicates how we feel about the part we play in rejection. We view ourselves as passive, as being the victim of an action, as inactive, as non-participative.